

This is probably one of the most frequent sentences in Denmark used to express interest in arranging a meeting with a friend (later during the day coffee is exchanged with ´beer´ or ´wine´).
I´m using it very frequently these days. However, what I experience is that in Denmark having coffee has to be arranged, often days ahead. I almost fear asking for coffee with a short notice, as I can´t take busy people´s time, but it is also indicating I´ve nothing important to do (everybody should try that by the way, it is a fantastic feeling as long as it lasts).
It is driving me crazy that such a simple thing has to be made so complex and noted down into a calendar. Obviously, the coffee is not the central point in this, but meeting friends, moving yourself out of your home and into the public space, leaving your children with your spouse, taking time off from your busy scedule.
Coffee the Swahili way is served everywhere in public space, and I find the difference significant, as I believe it is also indicating a difference in how the Danes withdraw from public space to our homes, while the Tanzanians share more things in the public space.
As an expat - or a newly returned development worker - it is easier to enter the culture when the natives are present in the public space doing ordinary things, like having coffee the more random way. A lot of wazungu in Tanzania complain about the fact that it is impossible to arrange anything ahead with a Tanzanian. Funnily, it is much more easily to arrange something within a short timeframe.
I guess, that is where these two places really differ, secondly how you deal with it. No solutions to the latter, as I´m late for coffee. Fortunately, there are exemptions to the rule in this place.
Something I´m trying to hold on to: So, please do invite me for coffee (or whatever).
Soundtrack:
Ikhwani Safaa Musical Club\Zanzibara, Vol. 1- A Hundred Years of Tarab in Zanzibar
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